My daughter hits her little brother
5 year old refuses to share with her 2year old brother. Whenever
he tries to take her toys, she hits him and pushes him away. We
gave her time outs, had talks about being nice to her brother, we
even took away her toys but it doesnít seem to work. She screams
out "I had it first!" then she cries and pouts but
doesnít learn from the discipline. We have tried just about
everything, except spanking- my husband thinks itís the only way
to get through to her but I disagree. I donít believe you should
use spanking to teach a child not to hit. We are not getting
anywhere with our daughter, can you give us some suggestions?
your daughterís actions is ineffective, if the motive behind it
is not addressed. Focus on why she hits her brother. Older
siblings often think that their parents allow the younger siblings
to get away with far too much (which is true in some cases). She
may be jealous of the attention or the extra privileges she
perceives baby brother gets from mom and dad. Acknowledge her
feelings and give her strategies to cope. You can say: ďI know
it bothers you when brother grabs your toys. You donít have to
share if you donít want to, but itís not ok to hit him. Next
time tell brother please donít take that, itís mine. If he
doesnít listen come to mom or dad for help.Ē She can also
place her most treasured possessions out of baby brotherís reach.
Your goal is to help her to understand that her little brother is
not acting maliciously, but is too young to play nicely. Help your
daughter develop patience and empathy. Praise her when she shares
toys or shows compassion towards her brother.
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